Better, Calmer, Happier

There can be a subtle way that the mind thinks, “If I am living according to my nature, truly being myself and as aware as I can be, then I will be happier, more capable, more equanimous, more tolerant, more loving,” or any other number of things we view (or have been conditioned to view) as desirable states. While this may be true, it may not look the way we expect.

One of the most relieving and liberating recognitions that can come through the knowledge of design is that certain aspects of ourselves are not wrong, bad or in need of fixing. They may, in fact, be quite persistent and serve a particular purpose in the right context. 

For example, if we consider the chart someone with the Channel of Abstraction 64-47, a “Design of Mental Activity Mixed with Clarity”.  This is probably the busiest of minds, one that is always active, always trying to make sense of what has happened in order to find understanding, seeking clarity.  It is a fixed, consistently active mind. While we may think that having a quiet mind is ideal, we can recognize that such a characteristic is a natural aspect of our being that can actually liberate us from experiencing it as a problem. We can simply let it be and witness it, rather than develop an inner resistance to it which can become a distraction.

“Enlightenment is a destructive process. It has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier. Enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth. It’s seeing through the facade of pretence. It’s the complete eradication of everything we imagined to be true.”
– Adyashanti

Some spiritual teachers describe enlightenment as a process of removing obstacles, resistance and conditioning rather than a process of improvement or creating something in ourselves. In other words, being awake, aware or enlightened is actually our natural state. Personal growth involves removing what obstructs that nature.

In Human Design, we refer to this deconstruction process as deconditioning which involves letting go of conditioned behaviors and beliefs that have interfered with our natural presence and flow of energy. One of the practical applications of Human Design is to follow the natural energetic response or awareness of the body as an alternative to habituated behavior determined by the mind. The knowledge holds that we go through seven-year cycles of this deconstruction.

In the first 7 years of deconditioning, we are letting go of the historical build-up of reactivity to the ways we have been conditioned. These are often triggers, compulsive behaviors, and sensitivities that have become ingrained from chronic situations that compromised our strengths and natural abilities and instincts. We may also have built up resentments, self-judgments or beliefs that distort our ability to see the present clearly. As we recognize what is true about our nature, we can let go of those structures that have obscured who we and what is truly healthy for us.

The signature and not-self themes of type, for example, serve as signposts for what is natural and healthy for us. Yet, it does not mean that we are good or doing right by our design if we only experience the signature of our type as if that is a goal. Rather, we can use the signposts to guide our experience and see if that seems to bring us more truth and fulfillment for ourselves.

We may think that as we become more aware or aligned with our nature, we will become happier or more calm, peaceful and less reactive. We may have some idea of what a more developed or enlightened version of ourselves looks like. In actuality, we may become more naturally reactive and responsive to what is happening at the moment. The not-self themes as they are described by type, may in fact surface more immediately and serve as present time signs of what is healthy and correct for us.

Alokanand Diaz, an Emotional Manifestor and Human Design teacher, describes it in his experience:

“Deconditioning was not to take my anger away.  It was to make my anger fresh, from this day, not some childhood anger.  Not an anger for nothing. It was very crisp, very clear and it was about this or that.  And it was with this person.  I was not angry with life.  I was not angry with humanity.  I wasn’t angry with myself.  I was just angry because something was happening.  So I realized that anger was never the problem.  The lack of clarity in my anger, my own fear of embracing my anger, of saying, “Yes I am angry,” that was missing.  So since that moment, I lost my fear of being angry anywhere, with anyone.  And something new started in that I realized that anger is also something that defines me when it is clear.  But anger is not bad.  Anger is there to destroy falsities, to destroy what is not correct.  The moment I started to embrace my anger, it was easy to get angry and then calm down.”

– Alokanand Diaz

Many of us would likely think that greater tolerance would be a feature of being more healthy or more aware. But more tolerant of what? I have found that acceptance of others as they are and acceptance of myself as I am has deepened significantly. You could say that I am more tolerant of others and of myself. Yet with that, my endurance for activities, conventions, and interactions that interfere with what feels natural for me has waned. The bitterness has become less entrenched with contempt and resentment and is more like an immediate bad taste in the mouth.

Chogyam Trungpa used the term ‘Spiritual Materialism’ to describe the act of using techniques and tools (often labeled ‘spiritual’) to reinforce a false sense of self. Buddhist traditions would call this false sense of self egoic. In Human Design terms, we call it the not-self. When the not-self takes hold of whatever tools or teachings we are employing, we may find that it actually drives us to use them to seek more control over our lives, our emotions, our reactions, our material gains, and our relationships. When we are not able to gain more of that control, we may reject the system as invalid.

There is a dance implied in the prospect of being awake or aware. If you have seen a plant for example, which needs sunlight to survive, you may have seen the way it adapts by growing in the direction of the light that is available. It does not decide to insist that it will become independent of sunlight or pridefully refuse to alter its direction to prove that it will not be controlled by the light that is available. It does not try to become a different kind of creature or move the sun. If no light is available and it can not survive, it does not assume that it is because it is unworthy of life or that it should have been able to make the sun move.

Perhaps our nature is the same. If we can recognize it, we can allow it to react and respond to the circumstances of life naturally. We can see, sense, feel our way through our experience as it is. This is not an easy process in a world driven by collectively conditioned ideas and our minds own evaluating interference with our senses and the intelligence of our bodies.

The temptation can be to use spiritual or awareness systems to try to get what we want, avoid discomfort, gain status or accomplishment or create a life we think makes sense to ourselves and/or others. Many of the things we think we want stem from an underlying belief that there is something wrong with the nature of ourselves as we are and further with life as it is. Human Design as a teaching embraces the full polarity of every characteristic. To know fullness is also to know emptiness. For every emotional high, there is a low. Times of inspiration are interspersed with fallow periods of flatness. We may not like it but we can come to appreciate it and see its value and purpose even when it’s uncomfortable.

I would guess that many of us know that we can’t always get what we want and that ups and downs are part of life. Growth mindset and grit are popular concepts these days. But as we experiment with different systems or teachings, is there still a part of us that holds onto the notion that we can “win the game”? Become enlightened enough, masterful enough or aware enough to still get what we want after all, whether that’s in the realm of the material, emotional or relational?

Some of us are designed to work harder and make things better. Some of us are emotionally intense and generally nervous. Many of us are designed to wait much longer than we want to. Some of us are made to follow what makes us happy. Some of us will often feel like an outsider. Some of us are masters of material. Some of us are made to struggle. Often we argue with what we are before really getting to see what we’re made for. Sometimes we just don’t know until we know. Sometimes trying to change what we are is like refusing a gift before we’ve really opened it to see what it is.

“Enlightenment is permanent because we have not produced it; we have merely discovered it.”
– Chogyam Trungpa

Discovering our true nature is exactly that: a discovery process. Enlightenment may be as simple and as challenging as slowly developing our awareness and courage over time. It may be continuous rather than instantaneous. Trust in life itself as it emerges can develop if we can let go of the mind’s attempts to maintain what we think we are. Human Design is a map that can point to this nature in each of us. But it is only describing and recognizing something that we are left to experience for ourselves. If it does not necessarily make us better, calmer, happier, what does it bring? Are we willing to find out?

Related Articles

What Human Design Is (And Is Not)

In our time working as Human Design analysts and teachers, we’ve noticed some common misconceptions about the Human Design System coming from those curious about and new to the system. We wrote this article with the hope of addressing some of these misconceptions and perhaps more clearly elucidating what the Human Design System offers.

Generators, Projectors and Type Relationships

Sometimes the most profound things are right in front of you in Human Design. Where something that would be easy to take for granted reveals itself as fundamental and obvious. The Human Design System has its own language, and like any other system, the entry point is often conceptual as we start by naming and typing things. However, the magic happens when we are able to relate what seems like intellectual and abstract concepts to our direct experience of what is actually happening. Then we might see that all of these words are describing something more fundamental in the underlying mechanics of the way things work.

Only logged in members can view and post comments.